Learning to let go

Going thru a break up will prolly be the worst heartbreaking thing anyone can feel. You prolly not know why you still have strong feelings for someone who doesn't share the same feelings or even care about you. Maybe you're still to comfortable with the idea being with that someone that its really hard for you to let go or maybe you still hope that this is all momentary and that you guys will get back together. Then you need to admit that and let go of this idea of being with him.

Yes its not easy. There's always things you'll reminisce.

You can cry at the beginning, letting your feelings out. Its okay to do all the things you've promised yourself that you'll not do. (NOT ALL THE CUTTING YOURSELF OR EATING PILLS OKAY).

Listen to his voice, looking at your phone hoping that he'll talk to you, hoping that he's thinking about you. You'll prolly not care of what he thinks and you'll just go about and text him or call him, just to know how is he, knowing it was a mistake because all that made you miss him even more.

Watch all those sappy love stories which you all know doesn't exist. It encourages all girls (including me) the romantic and unrealistic idea on how love should be like hoping on day you'll experience all that. It may make you happy for that few seconds, seeing all the happy moments but you know most of the time you'll be tearing because you'll be thinking "I want this. I want to be happy. Why can't i be happy?"

Eat a lot of chocolates and plenty of junk food. Yes you may eat from the carton. DONT BE ASHAMED. Its all part of the healing process. A tub of ice-cream can always ease that broken heart of yours.

Yes, you'll look crappier than usually cause you have noone to dress up for, noone to impress/to look prettier for.

Everywhere you go, you'll think of him (you'll see him thinking he's everywhere) because everything you do reminds you of him. The best way is to avoid the places you usually go with him. Be alone helps sometimes. Curl up in bed, and yes cry some more. Your friends try to cheer you up, but you won't listen cause it doesn't help at all because you miss him. NO, you just miss the thought of being together with him. His companionship, his hugs,  his voice, everything.

Yes all this are parts and parcels of being in a relationship and one day you'll wake up and realise you're okay and you're ready to release all the feelings you have. Put a little effort and dress up to hang out with 1 or 2 closest friends. And yes, if you're ready you can talk about how you feel, rant a little. A few guys try and talk to you, try to get to know you but you'll prolly not be interested cause you know you're not ready. You know a little part of you still miss him but at least the urge of wanting to talk to him is lesser. You just have to learn to control your urges.

Soon you'll be fine. You'll be wanting to socialise, make new friends, going out more, flirt... As long as you're happy. Try new things, get a new hobby; try yoga, explore new food places, start reorganising your things. One day you'll start to see life without him. Sometimes no matter how hard you try, something can always hold you back from moving on. That lingering memory, the false hope. You'll fall back a few steps. You can be strong and you will make it!

Finally, you feel that everything's fresh. Brighter, lighter. All the pain has gone away. All you can feel is excitement for the things to come. New people, new adventures, new possibilities. After all this, its not about finding the right one, but to understand yourself better, knowing what to do to be a better person. Without that someone, this is one of the best times to think about yourself, your life, creating the best possible moment for yourself. You're definitely much stronger. So don't be disheartened after a heartbreak. He's not the one because no guy should ever make a girl cry for his own selfish self. You definitely deserve better.