Is it bad for me to feel sad?

It’s not about the birthdays/anniversaries. It’s about him being willing to participate in something’s that im important to you.

This, exactly. This hurts the most.

I know I shouldn't expect something or I should at least plan something if I actually want to do something with him, but in the end of the day I don't want it to be just a special day for me. It's suppose to be our special day. It's about the both of us. (I know I shouldn't be sad about this cause this is all not that important in a relationship but hey it's about how he cares about your feelings and what he's willing to do and what the both of us have to compromise together.) 

I would plan a dinner, but he will undoubtedly say something about it being weird and then I’m going to feel bad. So I’m not going to do anything this year. Like I said, I’m just kind of sad that we don’t have that in our relationship. He used to verbally mention that another month has gone by, and he said “wow, we’ve been together a year” when the one-year came up.

Sometimes, I wonder, would i be happier getting surprises/gifts from you? Will I be happier then? Would we be happy? I mean who doesn't like surprises right? It takes up so much effort to do all that, especially if that certain someone is someone special. All im asking is for you to just spend time with me. Just a simple get together, chilling, spending the day together. Is that too much to ask? Maybe I expect too much. 

Well, relationships aren't just about surprises and 'the chase'. It's about keeping the one you caught cause it's already yours. The chase is over. Do what you have to, to keep your girl. It goes vice versa. It takes two to clap. You can't expect it to be all onesided.